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Red Flag Checker
25 questions that name what's hard to name.
Relationship red flags rarely arrive labelled. This 25-question test scores control, disrespect, jealousy and emotional safety so you can see the pattern instead of second-guessing yourself.
Free · No sign-up · Nothing is stored
Questions people ask
- What counts as a relationship red flag?
- A red flag is a repeated behaviour that reduces your safety, autonomy or self-worth, control, contempt, dishonesty, or the sense that you must shrink to keep the peace. One bad night isn't a red flag; a pattern is.
- Is this an emotional abuse test?
- It includes an emotional-abuse dimension covering gaslighting, punishment through withdrawal and belittling. It isn't a clinical diagnosis, if your score there is high, please speak to a professional or a support line.
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Heartwise tools are for reflection and education. They are not therapy, diagnosis or a substitute for professional support. If you feel unsafe in your relationship, please contact a local domestic-abuse service.